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Are soccer players allowed to have sex at the World Cup?

The World Cup is upon us, and even guys and gals out there who don’t give a shit about sports can agree on one thing– those soccer players are fucking sexy. But while they may have no problem getting laid, are they allowed to? The folks at PolicyMic posted a piece yesterday breaking down the sexual rules governing each soccer (or football to the rest of the world) team by country. While some, including the Ancient Greeks, believed that carnal activities deplete your energy and can poorly affect performance (that sax player from Seinfeld trying to play after boning Elaine comes to mind), others find that the tension release actually helps them to relax and allows for optimum playing. Here’s the policy for 8 different teams competing this year:

United States

Yes.   The U.S. national team coach said this week, “I think we have a group of guys together and an environment together that is very open, very casual. But once we go on the field for training and also for the games, we are very serious and down to business.”


Yes. (Surprising anyone?) Manager Didier Deschamps says that sex is allowed, but “it all depends on where, how and how much… I don’t want them to be cut off from the outside world.”


Maybe. As long as visits happen within the training and match schedule, families and partners can come to Brazil. Back in 2010 though, coach Fabio Capello swore to uphold the sex ban by monitoring the players through their hotel t.v. sets. Creepy.


Maybe. Super Eagles coach Stephen Keshi was advised by former team captain and manager Christian Chukwu to keep players away from temptation, though it’s not clear whether an official ban has been put in place. Keshi says, “In my days as a player, even as a coach, I made it a point of duty to stay away from women, because sex has a lot of spiritual things attached to it.”


Depends. Luiz Felipe Scolari says players can engage in “normal intercourse” (vanilla?) but acrobatic sex is not permitted.


No. Manager Safet Susic: “They can find another solution, they can even masturbate if they want… I am not interested what the other coaches do. This is not a holiday trip: We are there to play football at the World Cup.”


No. Coach Jorge Sampaoli has said no sex (and no soda).


No. Manager Miguel Herrera says that “If a player can’t go one month or 20 days without having sexual relations, then they are not prepared to be a professional player,” which seems harsh but understandable considering the prostitution scandals that have rocked their team.   Well there you have it. And if you haven’t seen the very sexy/let’s fuck shit up  World Cup promo that Beats put out yesterday, take 5 minutes and watch it NOW. It’ll blow your socks off.

–Kim H.

DOMA + Pride 2013 in pictures

I was moved to tears last week reading responses to the Supreme Court’s DOMA decision last week- it was not just a victory for the LGBT community but for our country and humanity. It fills me with great hope and pride to see that our nation can overcome hundreds of years of prejudice and delusion to take a stand for justice and equality.

The battle to eradicate sexual shame in America is far from over- bullying continues daily, abstinence education prevails in many schools (and let’s not forget that the sale of sex toys in parts of the south is still illegal. Seriously). I have faith, however, that we will continue to move forward and grow to do what is right. The revolution is NOW.

Here are some photos I snapped outside San Francisco’s City Hall after the Pride parade Sunday night:




I’m sure Lincoln would be proud. Here are some other favorite photos from the week:

A couple rejoices at City Hall in San Francisco, June 26, 2013 (Global Post)
A couple rejoices at City Hall in San Francisco, June 26, 2013 (Global Post)
Couples kiss on the steps of the Old Orange County Courthouse in Santa Ana, July 1st, 2013 (AP Photo by Amy Taxin)
Cover of The New Yorker, July 2013
Cover of The New Yorker, July 2013
Edith Windsor, 84, whose lawsuit was used to grant same-sex couples federal marriage benefits, leads NYC’s gay pride march, June 30, 2013 (AP)
Edith Windsor, 84, whose lawsuit was used to grant same-sex couples federal marriage benefits, leads NYC’s gay pride march, June 30, 2013 (AP)
Mark Zuckerberg marches with over 750 Facebook employees in San Francisco, June 30, 2013 (Facebook)
Mark Zuckerberg marches with over 750 Facebook employees in San Francisco, June 30, 2013 (Facebook)
Facebook Pride marchers in San Francisco, June 30, 2013 (Facebook)
Facebook Pride marchers in San Francisco, June 30, 2013 (Facebook)
Chris Roe & Roby Chavez celebrate with their soon-to-be adopted children in San Francisco. (Josh Edelson / AFP / Getty Images)
Richard Kelley and Steven Jung celebrate with a kiss (Krista Kennell/ZUMA Press/Corbis)
Richard Kelley and Steven Jung (Krista Kennell/ZUMA Press/Corbis)
Pride Parade marchers in Toronto (by Corbin Smith)
Pride Parade marchers in Toronto (by Corbin Smith)
Newlyweds Kris Perry & Sandy Stier share a kiss at City Hall in San Francisco June 28, 2013 (AP photo by Jeff Chiu)
Newlyweds Kris Perry & Sandy Stier share a kiss at City Hall in San Francisco
June 28, 2013 (AP photo by Jeff Chiu)

Love is love.





50 cent: ‘Masturbation is a sin…God is watching you’

Looks like rapper 50 cent has joined the long list of religious fanatics eager to shame us about our sexual desires. He has gone on Twitter to denounce masturbation, even outlining  a 4 step plan to stymy your wanking urges:



So how religious is 50 Cent? According to,

50 Cent has never claimed allegiance to any particular Christian denomination, but has expressed a belief in God, saying:

I believe in a higher power. I believe in right and wrong. I believe in God. I believe everything about the [Christian] church is cool, but everybody’s not there in the right spirit.2

He has also credited God to the fact that he has survived being shot 9 times.


Where do Christians get all these ideas about God hating masturbation? One oft cited story is that of Onan:

Genesis 38:8-10 – “Then Judah said to Onan, ‘Lie with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to produce offspring for your brother.’ But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brother’s wife he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so he put him to death also.”

Though Onan wasn’t actually masturbating, Christians point to Onan’s “self pollution” as an argument against it.

Since masturbation is generally an act committed out of lust, the following passage is also used as religious ammunition against self pleasure:

Matthew 5:28 – “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who has looked a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

I’m just grateful I was raised Buddhist and never had to go to Sunday school. Did you grow up in a religious household that banned self pleasure? What are your thoughts on 50 Cent’s condemnation? Weigh in below.


–Kim H. 


Ke$ha claims she had sex with a ghost. How common is this really?

So this is why she wakes up in the morning feeling like P. Diddy. Singer Ke$ha told Ryan Seacrest in a recent radio show interview that her new song “Supernatural” is “about experiences with the supernatural, but in a sexy way. I had a couple of experiences with the supernatural.”

Who was this sexy ghost? “I don’t know his name,” Ke$ha tells Seacrest. “He was a ghost! I’m very open to it.” Ke$ha continues describing her upcoming album Warrior, which will be released on December 4th: “There are so many weird topics on this record, from having sexy time with a ghost to getting hypnotized and going into past lives. I just really wanted the theme of this record to be the magic of life.”


Magical indeed. Most of you probably remember Dan Aykroyd’s character enjoying some paranormal kink in Ghostbusters and I’m sure women all across America have fantasized about being haunted by the ghost of Patrick Swayze. But does this kind of thing actually happen to people in real life?

There’s a term for such a phenomenon that also describes people who are sexually attracted to ghosts: it’s spectrophilia. And there are all kinds of accounts of people claiming to have had such paranormal experiences.  A special airing on the Travel Channel last year aptly titled Ghostly Lovers featured several women describing their sexual encounters with ghosts.  “My husband died in my arms and then came back and made love to me” claims a woman named Stephanie. She goes on to describe a conversation with a recently widowed friend: “‘So Jean, has your husband come back to have sex with you yet?’ She said, ‘Yes, how did you know??'”

“I hope the people watching the show will realize that when they have experiences they think are strange, there are probably other people out there who have had them” says one Ghostly Lover.

We’ve seen a slew of vampire romance stories in the last few years. Perhaps ghost sex will be the next big thing?


–Kim H.




Image of Ke$sha from Maxim

San Francisco 49ers release ‘It Gets Better’ message (VIDEO)

This week San Francisco’s 49ers became the first NFL team to make their own It Gets Better video, releasing a 60 second clip featuring Ricky Jean Francois, Isaac Sopoaga and Donte Whitner telling LGBT teens that the team is on their side. Take a look:

SF weekly notes:

Of course, the team had some atoning to do on this front. Back in 2002, running back Garrison Hearst made a public apology to the gay community after he was quoted saying “I don’t want any faggots on my team.”

Although they are the first professional football team to produce an It Gets Better video, they aren’t the first sports team; last year the San Francisco Giants started a trend among professional athletes when it released a 60-second video featuring some of your favorite Giants, Matt Cain and Barry Zito, speaking out against bullying and letting LGBT youngsters know that the entire team is behind them.

One of the team’s openly gay fans, Sean Chapin (who also petitioned for the Giants video), launched a petition asking the 49ers to make a video. It drew nearly 16,000 signatures. Chapin said in a statement, “Let’s hope this is only the beginning, and that more NFL and professional sports teams around the country take this opportunity to speak up on behalf of LGBT fans and kids.”

Raging Grannies respond to Akin with ‘Legitimate Rape’ Song (VIDEO)

I hope when I’m old and grey I’ll have the wherewithal to compose musical responses to idiotic political gaffes by incompetent GOP representatives. Leave it to The Renegade Raging Grannies to come up with this creative rebuttal to congressman Todd Akin’s comments about a woman’s body being able to repel unwanted sperm and avoid pregnancy in instances of “legitimate rape”:

Here are the sassy lyrics by Vicki Ryder:

Legitimate rape is great birth control

So says Todd Akin and he oughta know

If we are raped we can rest unafraid 

‘Cause we can’t get pregnant if forcibly laid

Our female bodies are clever that way

We only get pregnant when we say ‘Ok!’

Doctors have told him so it must be so

The stork only comes if we don’t say no! 

Rape won’t make babies and that is a fact

There’s no global warming, the earth’s really flat

We’ve heard it on Fox News so it must be true

Well Mr. Akin we say FUCK YOU!

Rock on grannies, rock on.

Start your morning off right with a vibrator alarm clock!

Which way would you rather wake up if given the choice? To an annoying noise? Or to your favorite feeling?

Why rely on caffeine to get you going in the morning when you can wake up with an orgasm? A new alarm clock/sex toy appropriately dubbed The Little Rooster is designed to stir you from your slumber with some good vibrations. It has 30 power levels to choose from and you can pick how gently it starts, the intensity it goes to and how long it lasts.

There’s even a snoregasm setting to give you an extra ten minutes of “sleep” (while it continues to buzz away).

From the product description at

The Little Rooster is the first and only alarm clock specifically designed to make sure you wake up loving mornings by gently waking you from your slumber with pleasure. 

Curving comfortably around your pubic mound, the Little Rooster sits inside your knickers but outside your body. The wide, flat head stabilises the unit against your pubic bone and is exceptionally thin for maximum comfort. The vibrating leg rests against your clitoris and labia. No part of the Little Rooster is worn internally...once you have woken up to the Little Rooster, you won’t want to wake any other way!

This little guy is available in pink or white and can be yours for only £68.95 ($108.93)!

CDC finds less teens are getting to 3rd base

Data released this week by The National Center for Health Statistics, a division of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, showed an overall decrease in oral sex among adolescents (at least females, not males) between 2002 and 2010, as well as a small decline in vaginal intercourse with the same age group.

In February of this year, the Guttmacher Institute reported that teen pregnancies are at their lowest level in nearly 40 years.

 Camira Powell, in a recent post for, writes:

As much as these numbers are cause for celebration, the fight for adequate sex education in schools in lieu of abstinence-only education has not been given any thought this election season. When first elected to office, the Obama administration provided more funds to programs that took an evidence-based approach to teaching sex and health education. Evidence-based programs give students the facts about things like sexual intercourse, STIs and pregnancy prevention using contraception. However, with the passing of his Affordable Care Act, Obama is now backing conservative abstinence-only programs in public secondary schools. Romney, on the other hand, has remained mum on the issue in recent months, though he has publicly supported abstinence-only sex education in the past.

With studies showing time and time again that students with comprehensive sex ed are 60% less likely to get pregnant (or to get someone else pregnant) than those with abstinence-only education, it becomes clear why this issue should be given more attention. Although this issue does not seem as pressing as the budget deficit or unrest in the Middle East, it is a topic worthy of discussion, given that the CDC reports that half of all new STIs occur in people ages 15 – 24.

…If the two presidential candidates are really concerned with the health and safety of American youth, than it’s time they start talking –– and doing –– something about it.

For realz. Politicians often forget that this truly is a matter of life and death. ABC News reports:

The CDC has taken an increased interest in the data because of the rise of sexually transmitted diseases, including a spike in HIV infection rates among males 13 to 29 years old.

Although the risk for HIV/AIDS through oral sex is lower than vaginal intercourse or anal sex, according to the CDC, the transmission rates for genital herpes, gonorrhea and syphilis are considerably higher.

Some studies have found that an increase in oral cancers in the United States is associated with the human papillomavirus, and researchers attribute that to the popularity of oral sex.

Obviously people are going to continue to have all kinds of sex, as they very well should. The enjoyment of physical sensual pleasure is a basic human right too often associated with religious shame in our culture.  But putting more emphasis on comprehensive sex education will help to ensure that kids are going to be safe and smart about it when they do start making these big decisions about getting physical. And you know inside they’re all just screaming:

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Jon Stewart takes on Boyscouts and Chick-fil-A in ‘Gaywatch’ segment (VIDEO)

On The Daily Show‘s ‘Gaywatch’ segment yesterday, Jon Stewart reported on The Boyscouts of America and Chick-fil-A’s reaffirmation of their intolerant, anti-gay views. “The army may now be hospitable to gay people, but the fake army for children isn’t giving in,” joked Stewart, who went on to say: “I don’t want to minimize the concerns of the Boy Scouts, but you’re already the gayest organization in America,” citing their penchant for neckerchiefs and basket weaving.

After playing a clip of Chick-fil-A President Dan Cathy’s arguing that same-sex marriage defies God’s will, Stewart opens the bible to see what it really does have to say about marriage. From one of many ridiculous biblical passages, reads: “‘If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her, and they are discovered, he shall pay her father 50 shackles of silver.’ He’s not an asshole.” (Sidenote: I just watched a disturbing documentary over the weekend, For The Bible Tells Me So, which explores the ways scripture has been misused to foster sexual discrimination over the years. Apparently one of the passages many Christians cite that calls homosexuality an ‘abomination’ declares eating shellfish to be an abomination as well! Why aren’t these right wingers protesting outside Red Lobster?)

Take a look:

The Daily Show with Jon Stewart Mon – Thurs 11p / 10c
Gaywatch – Holdouts Edition
Daily Show Full Episodes Political Humor & Satire Blog The Daily Show on Facebook

Google announces ‘Legalize Love’ campaign for gay marriage worldwide

Today at the  Global LGBT Workplace Summit in London, Google announced an ambitious project called Legalize Love that pushes to legalize gay marriage around the world. The company has officially launched the campaign in Poland and Singapore and plans to expand the initiative to every country with a Google office, focusing especially in areas with anti-gay laws. reports:

Google’s Mark Palmer-Edgecumbe [says] “We want our employees who are gay or lesbian or transgender to have the same experience outside the office as they do in the office. It is obviously a very ambitious piece of work.

Their strategy involves developing partnerships between companies and organizations to support grass-roots campaigns. 

On the decision to launch the initial phase in a country like Singapore, Palmer-Edgecumbe says, “Singapore wants to be a global financial center and world leader and we can push them on the fact that being a global center and a world leader means you have to treat all people the same, irrespective of their sexual orientation.”

At the end of the day, the “Legalize Love” campaign is also good for Google’s business. “We operate in many countries and have a very globally mobile workforce. We have had a number of instances where we have been trying to hire people into countries where there are these issues and have been unable to put the best person into a job in that country,” said Palmer-Edgecumbe.

Bravo! This is the first time I’ve heard of  a public company taking such a bold stance on a controversial political and civil rights issue. Harry Gaskell of Ernst & Young who also spoke at the LGBT summit says, “If you are trying to change something – governments can exert diplomatic power, NGOs can martial facts and arguments – but corporations martial economic power. That is something even the most passive of countries will listen to.”

“The fact that Google is so virtual and its appeal is very wide and young demographically means it can help spread messaging very, very quickly” said Bob Amnnibale, an openly gay executive at Citi.

Perhaps more companies will begin to follow suit and use their economic power and influence to do some good. I’m excited to see whether ‘Legalize Love’ will have any legislative impact around the world. Either way, it’s certainly a step in the right direction.